When I play a spiritual song or hymn for someone, it usually does them good. I had a lady recently though that didn't appreciate me playing for her. She said, "If you're playing for my benefit, forget about it."
Imagine her in a New York accent saying Fuggedaboutit! Well, it was funny, I avoided laughing, but it was funny. A little sad too. Maybe it's one of the last signs of a vital life, that the music no longer means anything.
My recommendation is simple, keep the music going. Heaven will be full of music.